Today on our show, Len and I addressed this topic in an interview with Lynn Donovan. She is the co-author of: “Winning Him Without Words: 10 Keys to Thriving in a Spiritually Mismatched Marriage”
Some of the tips include:
• Be a helper instead of a nag: Find ways to compliment your strengths to his weaknesses.
• Ditch unrealistic expectations: When we place unrealistic expectations on our guys for needs God designed to be filled by Him, we wind up disappointed and resentful. And it’s not fair to our spouse.
• Assume the best intentions: Our human nature tends to make these assumptions that when something goes wrong, the person did it intentionally. This is where grace is crucial!
• Trade resentment for forgiveness: Resentment hinders love and respect. They can’t coexist well. Biblically, forgiveness is not an option. And forgiveness frees us to love our spouses the way God calls us to, in the example of Christ—unconditionally.
I appreciated Lynn’s honesty and wisdom. I haven’t read it yet, but I have a giant print out of the book in paper form, and I look forward to digging in. It looks like a great resource for anyone struggling with a spiritually mismatched marriage. For more information, click here.